The social duties among friends and neighbours like goodness,honoring , assistance, solidarity, visit, tolerance, sharing good and bad days, answering a summon, visit of ill people, to Exchange good wishes in religious feasts, congratilation, condolence are especially important among relatives. Because they firstly requires to continue ties of relatives; both in hadiths and books of ethics this subject is given a special importance under the name of sıla-irahim ( visit one's relatives) In a sacred hadiths Allah declares: “ Who continues tne relation of relatives, His care for that person would continue but who leaves his relatives He also would break His concern? “ (1)

 Hadrat Prophet declared in one of the many hadiths about the subject: “The most superior of all virtues is your continue the relation with the relative that stop visit from you” (2) Also he informed that mutual visits will increase sustenance, making metarial help to relative would bring two times more merits than other help, even in one of the hadiths it was declared that, those who break the ties of kinship couldn't go to Paradise.

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(1) Buhârî.

(2) Musned

THE GOODNESS OF HADRAT PROPHET TO HIS RELATIVES

 Our Prophet used to do kindness to everybody and helped them. But he tried to do honoring and benevolence to his relatives more. Considering the goodness to relatives as a binding duty with the name of “sıla-i rahim” caused it to be given more importance

 Hadrat Prophet had many relatives from his fathers' side. He had uncles, aunts, their children and grand children. Also he had foster , mother , brother,father and sister. He also regarded them as relatives.

 In his childhood, Our Prophet was brought up near his grandfather and uncle Abu Talib. His uncle made great goodness to him. Before Hadrat Muhammed-may Allah commend and salute him- became a Prophet, Abu Talib fall into a great material trouble. A great famine ruled. The Prophet wanted to help him and lighten the burden of his crowded family of him. And he took his son Hadrat Ali near him. The Prophet looked after Hadrat Ali , brought him up like his own child an then he married him to her much loved daughter Hadrat Fatima.

 Our Prophet loved his uncles Abbas and Hamza much. Especially when he was in Mecca , Hamza did many help to him. He was freed from the attacks of Meccan pagans with his help When Hamza died a martyr in Uhud Combat, he was very said and cried without controlling his feelings.

 He also had a different love towards his uncle Abbas. For his sake he accepted to see Abu Sufyan who was his mortal enemy and one of the notables of pagans , The Prophet showed him mercy and prevented Hadrat Omar to kill him.

 The son of Hadrat Abbas was very young. Our Prophet showed a special attention for his education. Later he became one of the notables among companions in respect of knowledge.

 Our prophet wasn't partial for one of his relatives , didn't treat them different, he used to visit them frequently, to inquire their health , honored them and tried to meet their needs.

 He used to observe all his relatives and protected their rights.

 He declared that : “ the sons of such and such person is not my friends . But they have a relationof kinship with me. I have the determined to yeşertmek?? And fresh this kinship with the water of visit.”

 Our Prophet used to do favor and kindness towards his foster mother, sister, brother and father.

 After the war of Huneyn, among the slaves that are captured, there was also Seyma, the foster sister of Hadrat Prophet. They brought her before The Prophet. He pull out his woolen jacket, spread on the ground and said her to sit on this. At that moment he reminded the days of childhood. His eyes full with tears.

 Later he said to Seyma: “ If you will you may stay here as a loved person. Or I will send you to your family by giving some useful goods to your tribe and family.”

 She preffered going back to her family. Meanwhile Seyma became Muslim and The Prophet said her to go Cirane and wait there. After his return from Taif, The Prophet gave her and family members some camels, goat and sheep.

 He was also fed by the freed slave of Abu Leheb, Süveybe. Time after time he helped her, sent food and clothes.

 Maintaining the relations with close relatives, to help and show kindness to them, to meet their needs if any, protect them, visit them, inquiring their health, with letter, telephone etc. Are both Islamic duties and also human. Because someday will come that you will also expect care from others. But if you do not have such a habit, nobody would think of you.

 Our Prophet expressed the beauty that doing relatives bring as follows: “ Know your relatives and akins. Because visiting relatives causes an affection, increase sustenance and cause one's life to be prolonged.”

 Showing care for relatives is also a good habit and cause to be a much loved person:

 A man came before Hadrat Prophet and asked:

 “O The Apostle of Allah who is the most auspicious of people?”

 “The one who is afraid of Allah most, who shows attention to his relatives, who encourages goodness most and causes to avoid badness more”

 Goodness to relatives is also a worship, a duty of being a born servant that will cause good pleasure of Allah , an indication of faith and a requirement of being a believer.”

 The words of hadrat prophet on this subject is so well advised :Those who have faith in Allah and the day of the Last judgement, are to show concern for their relatives ( do sıla-i rahim) .”

 He used to reccomend to care relatives much and stress this topic. Companions also accepted this advice as a command and instruction and tried to remove their neglects on this matter.

 Abdullah b. Ebi Evfâ said:

 We were before Hadrat Prophet. He declared:

 “Those who break the ties with relatives ,do not stay among us”

 Then a youngster who had a slight offense with his aunt directly went to his aunt and saw her and tey are reconciled. He again returned to our meting.

 Our Prophet declared again:

 “The Compassion of Allah do not descend to a society in which there are people who break their ties with their relatives.”

 Sometimes you form ties with relatives, come and go, ask them , do kindness and honoring . But from some of them you see no reciprocity. For some time this continue as being one sided, then you become tired and go to the way of breaking ties. Is it a correct behaviour? Let's have the answer from Our Master:

 A person came and asked to The Prophet that: O The Apostle of Allah . I have relatives. I visit them, but they do not come to me. I do kindness to them, they do badness to me. I treat them mildly and they treate me rude and hard.

 Hadrat Prophet declared:

 “If it is as you say, that means you have them eaten ash in heat . that means their badness is against themselves. As long as you treat them this way, Allah would help you and protect you from them.”