Marraige is one of the things that people have a need from birth. Marraige is not only togetherness between a man and woman. At the same time marraige is the basis of fanmily. And family is the fundemantal of the society. There is also a divine and religious aspect of marraige besides its important human , legal and moral aspect. The conditions that are necessary for the continuation of marraige in peace and happiness are “the limits determined by Allah The Most High” The continuation of marraige is possible with the protection and following these rules.

 We see in this verse that marraige is encouraged in The Holy Book:

 “Marry those among you who are single or the virtuous ones among your slaves male or female: if they are in poverty Allah will give them means out of His grace: for Allah encompasseth all and He knoweth all things.” (1)

 “And those who pray "Our Lord! grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous." (2)

 “And among His Signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts); verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.” (3)

 “And Allah has made for you mates (and companions) of your own nature. And made for you out of them sons and daughters and grandchildren and provided for you sustenance of the best: will they then believe in vain things and be ungrateful for Allah's favors?.” (4)

 Our Prophet also stressed the marraige with importance and encouraged:

 “Those who are phsically and spritually capable to marry but do not marry, they are not of mine. “ After having fear towards Allah and avoid badness, a believer doesn't benefit something better than a pious wife.” (5)

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(1) Chapter Nûr, /32.

(2) Chapter Furkan, /74.

(3) Chapter Rûm, /21.

(4) Chapter Nahl, /72.

(5) Ibn Mâje.

 One day three companions of Prophet who came near to the wives of Hadrat Muhammed-peace be upon him- asked them about the worship of The Prophet . And they told about the worship of him. . The companions who found those worship little for sinful people said:

 “Who are we in respect of hadrat Prophet? His all sins past or future were forgiven. Then one of them said:

 “I will perform ritual worship-namaz- in all nights as long as I live” The other said:

 “I will fast everyday in my lifeteime” And the third one said:

 “I will give up women and never get marry”

 Then Hadrat Muhammed-may Allah commend and salute him- who came near them declared that:

 “ Are you speaking like that? Look ! I take an oath that I am the one who is afraid of Allah most and who protects himself most from rebelling to Him is me. Despite this, I sometimes feast sometimes not. I perform ritual worship, I sleep and marry to women This is my Sunna. Who turns a way from my Sunna is not of mine. (1)

 Marraige gives a feeling of responsibility to man. Marraige which is relized on the basis of mutual love and affection , is the condition for a peaceful life of pairs. In marraige, if there is no mutual love and compassion , if pairs do not observe to the rights and law of one another, this would be an unhealthy marraige.

 Couples should have the consiciousness of responsibility in marriage. The duties of man and woman should do are different. Both should help to each other, when there are small problems they should show mutual understanding for not to exaggerate them. As it is understood from the verses that we gave translations above, Allah The Most High informs us that, pairs should shoulder common responsibilities, compete in goodness and auspicious behaviours , and they should have fear towards each other about observing their rights.

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(1) Buhâri, Müslim.