Having relations with appropriate people, to converse and getting along with others is one of the good habits.

 People have a collective life all over the world. Everybody needs each other. If the individuals of society get on well, Allah The Most High praises such a society and led them to success. Islam commands being cheerful, not to offend others and to form good relations with people and to continue them.

 In Islamic sources, among the concepts that express social peace, reconciliation and weld , ‘ulfet'-sociability, friendliness - is the one which is used more commonly. Especially after tribalism of Pre-Islam and harms of the feeling of party zeal , after an era of breaking apart and hatred, peace, reconciliation and weld gained importance for Islamic society; in holy verses and hadiths both use of the word ‘ulfet' and its derivatives and of others words like ‘unsiyet'-familiarity-, sulh- peace-, islah-improvement- , the formation of strong ties among Muslims was aimed.

 Allah The Most High declared:

 “And (moreover) He hath put affection between their hearts: not if thou hadst spent all that is in the earth couldst thou have produced that affection but Allah hath done it: for He is Exalted in might Wise.” (1)

 In this holy verse Allah The Most High mentions the aim of His Own system of education. Allah revealed the Noble Quran to weld the hearts of the people. To remove enmity, to have people drawn near and weld them, making people brothers is a necessity of humanness.

 The basis of friendship and brotherhood is not material but affection. Perhaps material causes may help to growing warm of hearts but it is not possible to buy brotherhood. So to improve and maintain affection, to grow and enrich this feeling is the duty of each Muslim. A brotherhood which doesn't have affection in its base is temporary and superficial. In the place in which there is affection, rudeness, enmity, grudge and hatred do not exist.

 The opposite of sociability is isolation, it is to withdraw one's corner and live alone. It is not a proper behavior to escape from people unless there is a legitimate cause.

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(1) Chapter Enfâl, 8/63.

 Our Prophet declared: A believer acts sociably and others treat him sociably. In someone who doesn't act sociably and to whom people do not treat sociably, there is no goodness. The most auspicious of people is the one who is useful to them. (1)

 The most important way to realize ‘ulfet' which is a very important ethical duty for social peace and reconciliation is to strengthen the feeling of religion. Because this feeling provides solidarity by preventing enmity and contrariness. Before Hegira the grudge and enmity that lasted for years between the Aws and Hazrac tribes was removed by their being Muslim and they became friends. The same situation has been witnessed in many places throughout the Islamic history.

 To realize ‘ulfet' in society, making greeting common according to Sunna whether the person is acquaintance or, handshaking of Muslims who meet each other, doing kindness and showing honor, being reconciled of offended people and reconcile them is also an important duty. In general, an environment of disorder or confusion is expressed as ‘ifsad'-spoiling- in the Noble Quran , an existence of peace and security is expressed with the word ‘islah'-improvement-; the badness of ‘ifsad' and goodness of ‘islah' is mentioned. In many verses, the words of ‘salih'-pious- and ‘salihat'-good works- which comes from the root ‘sulh'-peace- are mentioned to indicate pious deeds, for the good Muslims use of the word ‘salihin' and ‘salihun'-pious people- , is important in respect of indicating the relation between goodness and peace, being a good Muslim and a supporter of peace. Again In The Holy Quran as a pirnciple it is declared that:

 “If a wife fears cruelty or desertion on her husband's part there is no blame on them if they arrange an amicable settlement between themselves; and such settlement is best; even though men's souls are swayed by greed. But if ye do good and practice self-restraint Allah is well-acquainted with all that ye do.” (2) and it is commanded to reconcile the Muslims among which a quarrel has happened.

 “They ask thee concerning (things taken as) spoils of war. Say: "(such) spoils are at the disposal of Allah and the apostle: so fear Allah and keep straight the relations between yourselves: obey Allah and His apostle if ye do believe.”

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 Hadrat Prophet-May Allah commend and salute him- prohibited Muslims to remain offended for a long time and described the making peace among offended ones as an alms . (4)

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(1) Musned

(2) Chapter Nisâ, 4/128.

(3) Chapter Enfâl, 8/1.

(4) Buhârî.