GRIEF

 This is a mental pain that results from not to be able to attain a desired and beloved thing or loss of it or being anxious about future happening of something harmful and evil. Mostly the reason of it to have a strong desire for corporeal appetites, showing greed and passion for the pleasures of flesh, giving too much value to attain and possess worldly wealth, and to spent all one’s efforts to attain the temporary pleasures of this world which will not last long and for the continuation of them.

 For remedy of this illness, one should think that, it is an illusion that the people of this mischievous world will survive here and they continue to stay here by having all their desires eternally. This judgment is brighter than the sun before right minded people. The things which are endowed with permanency and eternity and a way from absence and temporariness are the degrees and happiness of the next world and spiritual wishes. The real master is the soul, it leaves its dwelling-body- but the souls do not disappear. Its dwelling which is upset in the ruin of this world established in the land of other world. This land is of happiness and brilliance. Then who is wise directs all his efforts and endeavor to attain this eternal happiness and adopts as a target to attain this spiritual aim being the greatest of all his desires. He estranged his heart from giving too much credit to this world which is passing like a summer cloud, extinguishing like a clatter of sword. Never become sad about the loss of anything, never consider important to attain something desired and become proud of it. He is like a person who chooses the way of self-sacrificing and doesn’t give his heart with greed to the passing life and who doesn’t have sorrow and ruin in the heart. As far as possible one should save his heart from filling with some desires and connect to temporary things. Thus he can be free of the pain and hopelessness caused by the possessions of others. This is the state known as riches of heart. Who attains to reach the level of contention. But one may ask for how many people it is possible to free himself from ties of this world and succeed a complete isolation.

 Almost all people of the world suffer from this illness. But people who can throw down these ties are very rare.
But if you cannot take the whole control of your spirit of conscupience and become free and released, at least do not let yourself to the valley of greed and dissipation. Do not consider the abundance of worldly facilities as a cause to pick all of them. Remind that to abandon this facilities-status, wealth- is certain. So that you can understand that going to excess about these desires is a not a preferable thing and it is against the wisdom. So that you can save your endeveaour and efforts to waste time in the valley of amazement and confusion and save the ship of the heart from being drowned among the the waves of desires of this world.
A right minded person should think if any of the people could attain all his desires. This is not possible and nobody could finish up all desires in this passing world. However much he tries and employs all means and devices he may imagine the more than the point that he has reach last and more of it is possible. If he doesn’t satisfy with little in reasonable and proper limits about his daily earnings and position and follows the impossible desires like greedy beggars and people who have no satisfaction he will be drowned in the ocean of passions and lost in the deserts, he falls in a sad situation.

 If people can consider and be moderate they see that there are many people who are lower them about position and favors. And those ones regard as impossible to attain the position and favors they have and they consider that as a great success and honor. Then is it proper or modest not to see the ones who glance him being envy and not be thankful for the favor that are endowed to him, throws the garment of content and satisfaction by looking the status, wealth, prosperity, and rank of a few people who are superior to them. And to say constantly:
“I wish the wealth of Croesus would be given to me”. Is it proper? And having wealth and status is dependent on thought and concern, enthusiasm for work, craft and prefer the work first. But every eager and greedy person who spends effort can not attain wealth and prosperity. There are so many people who reached material and moral successes without being hurt in the jungle of this world. Many people have been drowned in the pursuit of excessive desires in the difficult ways that they follow with passion. We can see that their passionate efforts bring them deprivation and their excessive works caused deficiency.

 Who abandons the convent of passion and satisfaction destroys his mind with the flames of the anxiety of wealth and poverty. If it is asked that “Is it possible to overcome these feelings?” we say “Think about the groups of people! You see that desires and level of subsistence are different from each other. Most of them are contented with their daily earnings and they are satisfied. All craftsmen around society like his own craft and works eagerly. Merchant likes his occupation and the leather manufacturer likes his and regards his own level superior to others. Even people who break his words and immoral people are proud of themselves. Everybody regard as talent to advance in his own profession. Each of them accuses other’s who have no idea of his profession as being unskillful, ignorant and deficiency. Each group is haughty with the things they have. Thus it is clearly understood that it is possible to content with every level of status and to be patient and satisfied in every situation. A stoker of a bath imagines being the owner of the bath and the master builder wants to be professional architect. Because satisfaction is necessary in saving someone’s life. Then you should also be contented with the level you have. Consider and pay attention not to give the control to the spirit of concupiscence to avoid suffer from grief. So that saves your ideas and efforts to be captured in totally materialistic areas and yourself being a fool in the hands of Satan and your inordinate appetites.

 Muslim philosopher Ishak el-Kindi, said in his book named “def ül Ahzan” : “ Indeed grief is not a natural and indispensable thing but man attracts it consciously by using his will power badly. A person who is sad about loss of something or not to attain it should think that there are so many people who do not feel anything about a lot of things that they cannot reach or lose.

 If grief would be indispensable and natural everybody should have been sad. Let’s say somebody is sad because of a position that he can not reach. There are others for whom it is impossible for them to reach this status so they neither think to attain it nor suffer pain about it. Again we see people who are suffer incredible grief for something they lose. But they forget it in time and starts working with joy and having fun with his friends. If grief would be something was a natural feeling it would never disappear.

 It is seen that the cause of the grief is to use the will of power wrongly. Not to have worry about the things helps to avoid grief. For a wise person it is possible to free himself from sorrow by reasoning and by meditation.

 When ignorant people suffer from grief they forget it in time and natural and unconsciously they calm down and become patient. Wise people free themselves from sorrow by thinking the end of everything and they succeed to calm down by keeping their tendency to make faults in the limits of patience and content. It is not possible for anyone to have the means of subsistence eternally. (1)
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(1) Ahlâk-i Âlâi, K. Ali Efendi.